Before this year's international Women's Day, a social APP launched an online survey revealing the phrases women hate the most when men use them during phone conversations.

According to the survey, the 10 most disliked words are:

No.1: Drink more hot water.

No.2: What's wrong with you now?

No.3: Hehe, originally meaning "giggle," but usually involves some type of innuendo. In some situations, it is similar to "sounds interesting."

No.4: Let's talk about it later.

No.5: It's entirely my fault.

No.6: Whatever.

No.7: Are you still there?

No.8: Have you eaten anything?

No.9: You are busy, a euphemistical way to hang up on a call.

No.10: Go to sleep early.

Why do so many women dislike phrases like "drink more hot water"? Song Jiayu, a psychologist on marriage and family life said that these words show men are perfunctory and half-hearted about their relationship. Women hate perfunctory attitudes the most, they need real emotional communication.

"Actually, these words themselves are not wrong. But, I am angry because saying these words shows that he does not understand me," said a college girl surnamed Wang when asked her comments about the survey. "For example, when I am sick or on my period, what I need most is his consolation or for him to take care of me, not phrases like 'drink more hot water.' I can feel his perfunctory attitude in these words. That makes me unhappy."

Song said the physical and structural differences determine the psychological differences between men and women. Women need to feel secure and be protected while men need to take care of and protect women.

Women's communication is feeling-oriented, focusing on their present emotions and feelings. But men's communication is goal-oriented, focusing on solutions to problems. That's why men like to say "drink more hot water" when their female partners are sick. This goal-oriented way of thinking often confuses them when facing "tests" or "jokes" from women.

"To make your partner happy, you have to feel her needs and feelings with your heart," said Song. He suggested that men use the heuristic technique to let women talk about their needs and then satisfy them. Meanwhile, both sides need more communication to deepen mutual understanding. "When you really understand her, it will become easy to make her happy," he added.

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