To go, or not to go Dutch, that is the question
- By Fang Zhou
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One wouldn't be mistaken for saying that the Wuhan woman represents many Chinese people's views or disapproval of the go-Dutch model. Many Chinese people, who cherish collective unity and love, and value kinship and camaraderie, believe the talk of "money" among family members, relatives and friends is uncalled for. Going Dutch at a family gathering is embarrassing, they say, because it could lead to alienation, instead of bringing them closer.
The controversy over going Dutch is not because some people have or do not have a sense of belonging when it comes to relatives and friends. What it essentially embodies is a different concept toward sharing expenses, which traditionally is considered demeaning.
But the "taking-turns-to-pay" model the Wuhan woman approved of is another kind of go-Dutch arrangement, although no one wants to admit it. For friends who have dinner together regularly, there is not much difference between everyone taking turns to pay and each paying his or her own bill, and the difference, if there is any, is only a more direct or indirect cost-sharing arrangement. So it is difficult to judge which is better.
As a matter of fact, sharing the bill is becoming increasingly popular in modern Chinese society, especially among young people in big cities. Aside from the dinners that friends have together, many young couples even choose to have separate bank accounts and go Dutch in their daily expenses. There is no evidence to show couples that choose such a lifestyle love each other less or their marriage is less stable than that of those who lead life according to established traditions.
An online survey shows 70 percent of the netizens do not detest going Dutch, although 77 percent Chinese disapprove of the "expense-sharing" model between couples. And according to a 2015 survey by a public opinion agency under Shanghai's bureau of statistics, nearly 30 percent of the respondents are not averse to going Dutch for household expenses.
No matter whether or not we accept it, going Dutch is only an expense-sharing arrangement that appears a bit different from the traditional Chinese cost-sharing model. The need for us is to make an informed choice.
The author is a senior writer with China Daily.
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